I wanted a dog, and that was that. Eric succumbed to my feminine wiles, and we got Adley.
We were both still in college and living together, but we were not engaged. We were at that point where we knew that the engagement was the next natural step, but there had been no talk of when or how.
If you look to the left, you'll see an engagement picture. And yes, Adley is in it. We did the shot at the playground of the preschool where we met. Aw....I know.
Anyway, getting Adley was a pretty bold thing. I was so lost in the joy of getting a dachshund that I did not really take the time to think about what it meant for my relationship with my now husband.
A dog, though for cheaper at the start, is a lot more official than an engagement ring. The dog, if both parties fall in love with it to a ridiculous extent, is more binding than any amount of diamond and metal.
I think I can honestly say that the day we brought Adley home was the first day of the rest of OUR life. Before it was just me and him, but when a puppy entered the equation, we were suddenly slapped with far more responsibility than we anticipated.
Our relationship was strong enough to withstand the major life shift, but we had worked hard to get where we were. A couple should seriously evaluate what they can handle. A dog can be a great thing--my husband and I have learned a lot about ourselves and our relationship.
It is incredibly easy to fall in love with a puppy. I do it all the time, but for the sake of my marriage, those dogs have to stay where they are. We have our two dogs, and I really think that any more than that would be overwhelming. We only got Adley, and later Radish, after some serious discussions about where we were going. A dog can be a twenty year commitment, and in a way, getting Adley represented our readiness to make that serious of a commitment to each other.
How have your dogs changed the way you see your partner and relationship? If you don't have a partner, how seriously involved would you have to be with someone before you considered getting a dog with him or her?
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